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How to co-parent after a divorce

Even after divorce, Arizona parents of minor children generally must maintain a co-parenting relationship. This can be challenging, but it is important to the well-being of their children that they try to avoid conflict. Some parents may struggle to communicate after a divorce, so they might settle on a method that does not require them to talk to each other, such as email or text. There are also online tools that parents can use for scheduling and other custody and visitation-related communication. Children should never be used to carry messages back and forth.

Non-custodial parents play an important role

Arizona parents who decide to divorce could face major changes in how their families function. While most parents hate to spend more time away from their children than necessary, divorce usually comes with some level of shared time between the exes. There are a number of different configurations for child custody, reflecting the fact that each family is unique. While joint or shared custody is becoming much more popular in family courts, there are also a number of reasons why families may choose one parent to maintain primary physical custody.

Mistakes for divorced parents of teens to avoid

Divorced parents in Arizona who may have co-parented successfully for years might face new challenges as their children become teens. Parents may make the mistake of taking a more hands-off approach to their child and one another under the assumption that the teen is mature and responsible. While this is sometimes true, teens still need monitoring and guidance.

When kids are involved in a divorce, they come first

Arizona divorces come in all shapes and sizes. Some marriages fail in the early years, some do not survive after several decades of union. While the ultimate reason why divorce proceedings are initiated may be as unique as the couple involved, at some point, the conclusion is reached that the two are better off apart than together. The dynamics of how the two handle this life-changing decision is severely tested when children are part of the equation. They are the most vulnerable and need the most protection.

Parents can't always work together

Ideally, parents in Arizona and throughout the country will work together to raise their children after a divorce. However, this is not always possible. For example, if a parent has a substance abuse issue, it may be difficult for that person to be present or to behave in a consistent manner. If an individual has made threats against another person or an animal, it may not be possible for that person to be a good parent to a son or daughter.

Facing the challenges associated with co-parenting

Divorce has offered some Arizona parents a fresh start in life. Even though it has its benefits, ex-spouses who share custody of their children may still experience challenges related to co-parenting. However, there are a few ways parents can face these challenges head-on.

Shared child custody gaining greater acceptance in family courts

Divorcing or separating parents in Arizona need to determine child custody. For much of the 20th century, family courts believed that children belonged with their mothers, and judges almost always granted full custody to mothers. Cultural changes in the past decades, however, have shifted views, and family courts increasingly expect both parents to pursue shared custody.

Solving common co-parenting conflicts

Even when parents divorce on fairly amicable terms in Arizona, there's always the potential for co-parenting conflicts to arise. Disagreements sometimes involve differing parenting styles while other issues are more serious in nature. No matter what's at the heart of parenting conflicts, parents no longer living together as a legal couple are encouraged to keep the best interests of their children in mind.

Coping with visitation rights are denied.

When a parent is denied visitation in Arizona, this experience is almost always devastating. Whether the denial originates from the court or a bitter ex-spouse, it can prove equally difficult to bear. At the same time, it can be easier to seek redress from an embittered ex-spouse acting on their own and without judicial approval. This type of illegitimate action is far too common and far too devastating to family relationships.

Setting a suitable parenting schedule

When parents in Arizona decide to get divorced, their children can get understandably upset. Children can be uncomfortable with drastic life changes, especially if these changes mean that they'll get to spend less time with the people they love the most. One of the better ways to ease children into this transition is for parents to set up a solid parenting schedule that accommodates the children's needs.

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