While most people in Arizona are getting into the “holiday spirit,” there are some people who may be having a more difficult time than others – those who are going through a divorce during the holiday season. A recent article, acknowledging the difficulty that some people may experience at this time, attempted to help those individuals with a specific question: How do you cope with a divorce during the holiday season?
Well, for starters, couples who have children and who are going through a divorce may be able to cope by focusing even more attention on their children than they ever did while they were together with their soon-to-be ex-spouse. Sure, the children may be shuttling back and forth between the spouses at a time when most families are coming together, but the holidays offer a unique time to re-connect with your children: they are off school for a while, and you may have some vacation time to spend together with your children doing some of your favorite activities.
But, unfortunately, there will be some parents who are going through a divorce who may find, due to temporary child custody arrangements, that they don’t even get to see their children in person on Christmas, Hanukkah or New Year’s Day. As the recent article noted, anyone who finds themselves in this unenviable position may find it helpful to cope with the issue by spending time with other family members or friends. Being alone probably isn’t the best idea.
Lastly, it is important to remember that the awkwardness, hurt feelings and anger you might feel during this particular holiday season – right in the middle of your divorce proceedings – is temporary. Soon, the divorce will be finalized and you’ll be able to go about your life, moving forward toward a – hopefully – brighter future.
Source: goodmenproject.com, “Divorce During the Holidays,” Tommy Maloney, Dec. 1, 2017